Mistakes, magic and success

Diana Bailey Essential Motion Pilates

By Diana Bailey
“A mistake is simply another way of
doing things.” Katharine Graham
Keep in mind that to give yourself permission to “not know” is a great gift.

Everyone loves the crystal ball.  A decision to suspend knowing makes space for magic.

Mistakes could be categorized as the process of learning what works for you, and what does not. The best way to find out is: Do it and see what happens! There are many professions called a “practice” because that’s what they are. The practice of learning, refining, teaching and coaching movement is no different. The key is not only practice, but what is learned from the practice.
People continually suffer from the idea that they “should have known” about something before experiencing it. That’s a great way to never live life at all. If you knew it was a mistake going in, of course you would’ve done something different! So, making an error doesn’t matter, but how often the same mistake is repeated certainly does.

Fear of criticism

First, fear of the criticism or blame that can surface when a mistake is made, especially if it’s happened before, can become confused with genuine danger to existence. So, we freeze or stay silent. Real solutions elude us, and progress stagnates. Inevitably, this reaction to a dilemma sets the stage for a rerun. The vital sense of engagement in life, including opportunities to make valuable contributions and truly share your talents, actually fades when fear starts making all the decisions.

Regrets

Regrets are interpretations of the past that cripple people in the present. The admonishment of “don’t screw it up this time” is a misunderstanding of the primary lesson of any mistake: To learn about yourself through a challenge rather than to control an outcome. The willingness to jump in and try again with a better approach ultimately determines more successful results than any other action. This willingness is a quality that great leaders share.

Consistency yields success

Consistency fosters an appreciation for the ebb and flow with all things. The lesson moves from head to heart when it is realized that no error determines someone’s value as a human being. Come rain or shine, plus or minus, praise or blame, proxy or default, success in any endeavor in showing up and doing what is necessary on that day and in that moment.
The study of movement, and progress in any fitness program for that matter, is simply refining the practice of working with each other and yourself. Getting out of your own way is to cultivate the habit of equal regard for both yourself and others. This is a triumph in any given circumstance.

The moment of truth after a mistake comes with the choice about what to do next…every time. It is summarized in three words: Do, Learn, Practice.

Previously Published April 2013

Fighting Perfectionism

Diana Bailey Essential Motion Pilates

By Guest Writer Diana Bailey

I have perfectionist clients, and I used to suffer from that…a lot. We can all at times torture ourselves with this idea that somehow, at some moment, everything will be better and my life will be happy and my body will be fitter if I could just do (whatever) perfectly all the time. This thinking steals any joy in the present.

I now respond to that subject this way: I talk to myself every time it happens as though I am my own loving parent or friend. These words have shaped my thinking and so follows the doing.

mistakesareKeep in mind that being unafraid to make a mistake is far more important than the mistake itself.

Do it. There is no creativity without the vulnerability of making a mistake. The judgements and opinions of others actually matter very little in the grand scheme of this personal life. The necessary survival fear of an oncoming speeding car that says “Get out-of-the-way!” is important. The fear of judgement will stop much greatness. Let that one go and take the risk.

                                                   All mistakes are fixable in the light of learning from them. Learn from it what you can.  Move on.  Practice progress.

Contentment is the space between your thoughts. Every time that is the marker.

 

 

Previously Published September 2012